Uncurbed

Image source: pngtree.com The definition of love is something I am still learning, but I know for sure that it does not hurt, it does not raise fingers, it does not abandon and it does not change. Love is pure and genuine, love is goodness and love is the reason behind everything good around us. Love should not be exhausting. Creating pain, hurt and negativity under the name of love is the worst and most unfair thing I have ever witnessed in this world. We need to understand that harming others in the name of something so good is wrong. We need to stop running after needs when it includes pain for other people; stop manipulating others in the name of care and stop abandoning people in the worst ways just because there is an opportunity for us to. Sometimes, we look highly and think highly of individuals just because we want to see the good in us become reflected on them, we want to see happiness and goodness, and we request it back from people who are not always ab...

W e usually accept the form of love we think we deserve, although we usually think we deserve so much less than what we actually do. In order to discuss the lesson learned here, I must share bits of a negative personal story. I have been cheated on, manipulated bad enough to think that it was my fault and that I deserved to be abandoned for who I am and how bad I was, and I believed that. I saw acts of cheating right before my eyes and chose not to notice them because I put other people on a pedestal when they were not worthy. Not everyone in our lives is worthy of our attention, our emotion. But in this life we have to go through pain in order to learn, learn to detach, to let go, to accept what cannot be changed and to observe. Become aware of one’s self worth, as it shows and it is present, but we choose not to see it, we choose to look down at ourselves and think we deserve the minimum, of everything. We think we are; not good enough, not beautiful enough, not smart en...