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Lesson Learned: We Accept the Love we Think we Deserve




We usually accept the form of love we think we deserve, although we usually think we deserve so much less than what we actually do.

In order to discuss the lesson learned here, I must share bits of a negative personal story.

I have been cheated on, manipulated bad enough to think that it was my fault and that I deserved to be abandoned for who I am and how bad I was, and I believed that. I saw acts of cheating right before my eyes and chose not to notice them because I put other people on a pedestal when they were not worthy.
Not everyone in our lives is worthy of our attention, our emotion. But in this life we have to go through pain in order to learn, learn to detach, to let go, to accept what cannot be changed and to observe.

Become aware of one’s self worth, as it shows and it is present, but we choose not to see it, we choose to look down at ourselves and think we deserve the minimum, of everything. We think we are; not good enough, not beautiful enough, not smart enough, not humorous enough, not happy enough, not supportive enough, we are always lacking something, and we shall never be complete unless we start seeing ourselves for who we truly are. Worthy of respect, worthy of proper and decent treatment, worthy of inner peace, worthy of happiness, worthy of love, in its purest forms. Allow no one to break your self image, or your self esteem, allow no one to define who you are, no matter what it is the reason behind them doing so. It is never anyone's right to define you, to hurt you, to affect your self image, to tell you what and what not you are worthy of.

 Trust your intuition because, if something does not feel right, then it isn't right. Always speak your mind, never let anyone tell you to be quiet. Speak your mind and express yourself and who you are.
This goes out to every strong woman, even if you are not aware of your strength yet, and to the men too if it fits; know that not everyone will be able to handle the power of who you are but that too is okay. Because when people go away, they were never able to handle you in the first place and they do not deserve what you have to offer, they cannot take it.


I am shouting this out to anyone who needs to hear it, because I have been quiet for too long.
I have been highly manipulated, and i let it get to me by choice, as I thought I was choosing other people over myself. And that wasn’t the case, I was only destroying myself for beings that did not deserve this of me.

I have been cheated on, and I chose not to trust what I see and feel, because I thought I was being loving and trusting, I was only being a fool.
I have been abandoned, in the worst ways and I begged for mercy on my heart and my feelings, because deep inside, I thought i deserved to be abandoned. I thought there was something in me that people had to discover and run away from. I was only bringing it upon myself by thinking less of who i truly was, and with this mentality, I would always only attract people who want to take advantage of such weakness.

Do not do the same. Know who you are and what you are, and never settle for less. It does not mean to become cocky or look down upon opportunities and other people, it means that when you are in a situation where you feel unappreciated, you have to leave. When you feel that the person in front of you is projecting their own faults upon you, take a stand and address this. When you feel like you have something to say, speak up, and if you get told things that you know you are not, believe yourself, never others. You will attract what you think you deserve, in time it will show, and this life has amazing ways to show us exactly what our worth is.



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