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So, it’s time to speak up!


We’ve been screaming our lungs out as women, in many ways; in all ways we could. And in most times, we couldn’t, and it’s not because we weren’t able to, but it’s because we were taught to be afraid, to hide, to remain silent, to be ashamed and to be ashamed some more. Ashamed of what exactly? What are women being taught to be ashamed of? Ever since they were young girls and all they hear is that everything is a ‘no’, everything is wrong. You have an aspiration to play a specific sport? No, it’s not something that girls do! You have a dream of having a job you love? No, this job isn’t for women. You want to celebrate your own body, creativity and life? What does that even mean girl are you crazy or something? You want to experience something? Want to learn something? Want to travel alone? No, no and no, women don’t do that.

What do women do then, huh? What do women do? They sit still, look pretty, but not too pretty, you don’t want to look like you’re asking for ‘it’. And what is ‘it’? Oh, you just insert anything scary in here. Asking for people to look at you like you’re something less than human, asking for someone to harass you, etc.

So just, be pretty, but not to pretty. Be silent, but not too silent, don’t be a bore. Be smart but not too smart because men are always smarter, how dare you make a man feel like you have a brain. Appear naïve but not too naïve. Do this, do that and do this and then do that. Be a woman, you know.
No, I don’t want to know that anymore, it’s tiring. What we go through everyday is tiring. It’s a struggle to be a woman in this life. And also, it’s such a blessing to be a woman in this life.

Because here we are, speaking out, educating people, one step at a time. We’ve been calling for equality for ages, we’ve been calling for rights for ages, we’ve been screaming it out, protesting, working so hard to break all the current ideas. The patriarchy that exists to give power to a certain group, based on fear, and hatred. We’re still doing it today. There will be change, because change always is. We’re creating this change today, because that’s who we are; we are creators. We are divine beings. We all are; men and women, but we happen to choose what we believe in, and we keep choosing less.
Well today, we’re speaking up. And I believe it’s only fair that I do too.

I’m not much of a speaker, not the kind of person that would share a personal story; and whoever knows me knows that I’m most uncomfortable when I try to speak, because I feel more than I do speak. And thank God I can write.
It’s no place for fear now; we have all been there, we have all been treated as if we are inferior and we should all stand up, united, because we are all one. And it’s time to make this change. One little step at a time.

I have been in so much pain, because of all the stories that are coming now to the surface, I am also in more pain because of all the individuals I hold so high and so dear to me that refuse to see what the higher truth is. That are still afraid, I don’t blame anyone, I’m still sending love to them all. Always.
I have been subjected to multiple kinds of harassment myself. And to be honest, I never mustered the strength to even mention it.

The first time I remember I would say I was about 19 years old, when someone I trusted, in the sports field, someone I viewed as a coach and mentor that believed in me, touched me in an inappropriate way from behind. I’m still unable to write details until today. May I one day have more courage like all the other brave women speaking more openly today.  I wasn’t aware at all of what was going on or what had happened that day, and as I grew older, I realized what had happened to me that day. And out of my respect for this individual, I never spoke.

Apart from this incident, and one more, there is so much I see every day, in the street, walking back from work or basically walking anywhere. With my friend or alone.

I understand; I understand how hard it is for every woman just to simply walk in the street, to go somewhere or do something that’s completely normal, and because of other people’s behavior we begin to contemplate what we did wrong. And we try to avoid whatever it is we had done; we did NOTHING wrong. DO NOT be shamed; you are beautiful, and you are fine, and everything about you is loved and is holy, that’s how God sees it. Let the lost souls think what they think, believe in what they believe in, may they one day see. You speak up, and you stand up, for yourself, and for the truth, you be the light and you shine.

And for the women who have been through much more pain than anything I can mention, for the ones who are feeling more than just hurt. I may have not been there, but I pray for you, and my heart breaks for you, and I send you love and prayers for healing. And for every woman that is suffering today that we don't know about. I pray for you. 

I pray for peace, I pray for peace to everyone, every victim, every girl and every woman that was ever hurt, that is still hurting. I pray for every lost soul, every soul that is so afraid to see the truth, every soul cannot find themselves, everyone that kind find the soul in them, everyone that needs help.

May God help us, may we stand up and help create change, every day. 

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