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So, it’s time to speak up!

We’ve been screaming our lungs out as women, in many ways; in all ways we could. And in most times, we couldn’t, and it’s not because we weren’t able to, but it’s because we were taught to be afraid, to hide, to remain silent, to be ashamed and to be ashamed some more. Ashamed of what exactly? What are women being taught to be ashamed of? Ever since they were young girls and all they hear is that everything is a ‘no’, everything is wrong. You have an aspiration to play a specific sport? No, it’s not something that girls do! You have a dream of having a job you love? No, this job isn’t for women. You want to celebrate your own body, creativity and life? What does that even mean girl are you crazy or something? You want to experience something? Want to learn something? Want to travel alone? No, no and no, women don’t do that. What do women do then, huh? What do women do? They sit still, look pretty, but not too pretty, you don’t want to look like you’re asking for ‘it’. And what is...
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Difficult Times.. A Diary

Interesting story; I have been writing something to be shared, basically writing what I was doing to handle the stressful time, and having to be locked down at home. I was writing with so much excitement to share this with others, that maybe someone can be inspired and have more hope in each day. I realized that afterwards, my writings of how I was feeling week by week were changing greatly, so I kept on writing. Here’s how the writings looked like week by week. Week 1   What to do during this time? Reflect! Slow down, and reflect; on everything. What I did personally was that I decided to take out a pen and my favorite notebook and write down what I wanted to do every day during the time I will be spending at home. I found out so many things I wanted to do! Eventually, but not immediately. I started with writing down some form of a schedule; I arranged my work time, time for working out at home, time to read and reflect, or just watch something I like. ...

Don't Panic, Reflect.. What's Happening?

In order not to panic, and reflect. We need to clear our minds and adjust ourselves to think more. And the more we listen to our thoughts and feelings the more we will be asking the right questions, and hopefully finding meaningful answers to them that shall give us peace. From my modest perspective, I believe the first logical question, and the one I tend to see very often is; What is happening? A change, a big change.  A difficult time that seems to present danger to people, but is this danger something that we were not expecting? Is it really out of the blue, and no clues or hints were seen before? Were we not aware of our actions, as human beings, collectively? What have we been doing to the environment? To nature? To animals? To other human beings? Our own families? Our own people?  What choices have we been making over the past years? It wouldn’t be wrong to say that we brought it upon ourselves, but that does not mean we are guilty and worthy of pu...

Pandemic! But Don't Panic, Reflect..

I know you’re scared, and worried, and anxious. And it is all totally understandable. What is happening, it does make sense to everyone. We are in a time where nothing is clear, but all that we know for sure that this is a time of change. All our lives are a time of constant change.   If anything is certain, and if anything does not change, that will be change itself. And change doesn’t always look appealing. Change comes in many ways and forms. However; the main point here is to know that, this time of change isn’t intended to be evil, it is not evil at all. I know this may sound crazy to some but on the contrary, it isn’t at all. It is exactly what is taking place due to humanity’s behaviors. The laws of nature are only taking their part and responding to our actions, to our choices, to what we choose to do every day collectively as humanity, to what we set as a priority, what we chose to believe in and what we chose to ignore and keep away. We can’t escape reality...

On the Definition of Love...

Image source: pngtree.com The definition of love is something I am still learning, but I know for sure that it does not hurt, it does not raise fingers, it does not abandon and it does not change. Love is pure and genuine, love is goodness and love is the reason behind everything good around us. Love should not be exhausting. Creating pain, hurt and negativity under the name of love is the worst and most unfair thing I have ever witnessed in this world. We need to understand that harming others in the name of something so good is wrong. We need to stop running after needs when it includes pain for other people; stop manipulating others in the name of care and stop abandoning people in the worst ways just because there is an opportunity for us to. Sometimes, we look highly and think highly of individuals just because we want to see the good in us become reflected on them, we want to see happiness and goodness, and we request it back from people who are not always ab...

Lesson Learned: We Accept the Love we Think we Deserve

W e usually accept the form of love we think we deserve, although we usually think we deserve so much less than what we actually do. In order to discuss the lesson learned here, I must share bits of a negative personal story. I have been cheated on, manipulated bad enough to think that it was my fault and that I deserved to be abandoned for who I am and how bad I was, and I believed that. I saw acts of cheating right before my eyes and chose not to notice them because I put other people on a pedestal when they were not worthy. Not everyone in our lives is worthy of our attention, our emotion. But in this life we have to go through pain in order to learn, learn to detach, to let go, to accept what cannot be changed and to observe. Become aware of one’s self worth, as it shows and it is present, but we choose not to see it, we choose to look down at ourselves and think we deserve the minimum, of everything. We think we are; not good enough, not beautiful enough, not smart en...

Leadership: When it's go time, are you up for it?

So you want  to be  in a place of authority? You want to have a team working for you, giving you their best day in and day out? You want all the success and all the recognition… sounds great doesn’t it. Well, are you willing to pay the price for being in that place? You work hard to become a leader, work hard to start your own business, have an office maybe, gather up enthusiastic people to form a team, it is hard work and it pays off when you see your work and effort in progress. But, what makes those enthusiastic people keep doing what they are doing? What makes them want to stay in their jobs? What makes them want to do more? The answer here is you, as much as it might be surprising to many, it is the truth. No, it is not the fancy office, it is not the salary, it is not the chocolate and fun, nor it is the bean-bags, it is you; the manager, the leader, and this is the price that you pay in return of being in ...